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女权主义者的性欲观(读书笔记:杰茜卡瓦伦蒂:《正面全裸的女权主义》)

时间:2019-12-05 14:44

女权主义者的性欲观(读书笔记:杰茜卡瓦伦蒂:《正面全裸的女权主义》)我一直以为,女权主义者都是些身穿男性西装剪着男人发型叼着香烟不刮腋毛的中性人,直到读了瓦伦蒂这本《正面全裸的女权主义》。现在才明白过来,原来女权主义者也是有七情六欲的!不仅如此,她们的欲望比普通女性更直白,更强势,更利己。瓦伦蒂用了整整一个章节来阐述女权主义的性欲观。标题是《女权主义者更擅长干那事(以及其它关于性的提示)FEMINISTS DO IT BETTER (AND OTHER SEX TIPS)》。她开宗明义就自我标榜“我在床上比你行,而这得归功于女权主义。”(I'm better in bed than you are. And I have feminism to thank for it.)现代男权社会对女人有一种自相矛盾的双重标准:一方面,女人在白天接受“守贞教育”,晚上则在电视上看到“女孩也疯狂”的广告。一方面,女孩被教导说婚前性行为是不对的,另一方面又告诉你,你若想成为一名春假辣妹,你赶紧对着镜头宽衣解带吧!(When you're getting abstinence-only education during the day and Girls Gone Wild commercials at night, it's not exactly easy to develop a healthy sexuality. You're taught that sex before marriage is bad bad bad, but that if you want to be a springbreak hottie, you'd better start making out for the camera.)守贞教育家是这么来教育女孩子的:“你们的身体就是一根棒棒糖。当你们与男人发生性关系时,他剥去你的糖衣,含吮起来。当时可能感觉不错,可遗憾的是,他与你完事后,你们留给下一位伴侣的就是衣冠不整,口水臭味的残渣。”("Your body is a wrapped lollipop. When you have sex with a man, he unwraps your lollipop and sucks on it. It may feel great at the time, but unfortunately, when he's done with you, all you have left for your next partner is a poorly wrapped, saliva-fouled sucker. ")够耸人听闻的。不过女权主义者不吃这一套。瓦伦蒂提出的口号是:“我的处女膜我做主!(Our Hymens, Ourselves )”她说:“我从未闹明白处女贞操有什么大不了,真的。我的贞操在中学时代就被一名男朋友没怎么费劲就夺去了。我们后来还约会了好几年呢。我还以为会有什么异样的感觉呢,没有。我总觉得这种把处女贞操当成如花似玉一回事很愚蠢。所以你可以想象,当我发现自己原来是被用过即弃的垃圾时有多愕然。”(I have never really understood what the big deal was about virginity. Really. Mine was lost without a great deal of fanfare to a high school boyfriend whom I dated for several years afterward. I expected to feel different—I didn't. The whole precious-flower-virginity thing always seemed silly to me. So imagine my surprise when I found out that I was just a used-up piece of trash without it.)我比较纳闷的是,女权主义者总体上是鄙夷男人的。可是在处理自己的情欲时,她们对男人的态度显然又是另一番风景。诚然,她们与男人上床,再也不是为了讨好男人,更不是为了繁衍后代,而纯粹是为了自己的愉悦。用瓦伦蒂露骨的话,就是:一边做女权主义者,一边啪啪啪!(f***ing while feminist !)只是,面对一位性欲如此高涨态度如此强势的女权主义床伴,哪一位小男人消受得起?

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我一直以为,女权主义者都是些身穿男性西装剪着男人发型叼着香烟不刮腋毛的中性人,直到读了瓦伦蒂这本《正面全裸的女权主义》。

(部分翻译仅凭个人感觉,不完全按照原文翻译)

现在才明白过来,原来女权主义者也是有七情六欲的!不仅如此,她们的欲望比普通女性更直白,更强势,更利己。

两性专栏,As I look back on my experiences, it’s interesting to reflect on how my perspectives have changed.

瓦伦蒂用了整整一个章节来阐述女权主义的性欲观。标题是《女权主义者更擅长干那事(以及其它关于性的提示)FEMINISTS DO IT BETTER (AND OTHER SEX TIPS)》。

When I started out, each and every twist and turn I encountered, whether in the markets or in my life in general, looked really big and dramatic up close, like unique life-or-death experiences that were coming at me fast.

她开宗明义就自我标榜“我在床上比你行,而这得归功于女权主义。”(I'm better in bed than you are. And I have feminism to thank for it.)

(刚开始的时候,认为市场和生活中的遇到的挫折与问题,非常巨大,像独特的生死攸关的经历)

现代男权社会对女人有一种自相矛盾的双重标准:一方面,女人在白天接受“守贞教育”,晚上则在电视上看到“女孩也疯狂”的广告。一方面,女孩被教导说婚前性行为是不对的,另一方面又告诉你,你若想成为一名春假辣妹,你赶紧对着镜头宽衣解带吧!(When you're getting abstinence-only education during the day and Girls Gone Wild commercials at night, it's not exactly easy to develop a healthy sexuality. You're taught that sex before marriage is bad bad bad, but that if you want to be a springbreak hottie, you'd better start making out for the camera.)

With time and experience, I came to see each encounter as “another one of those” that I could approach more calmly and analytically, like a biologist might approach an encounter with a threatening creature in the jungle: first identifying its species and then, drawing on his prior knowledge about its expected behaviors, reacting appropriately.

守贞教育家是这么来教育女孩子的:“你们的身体就是一根棒棒糖。当你们与男人发生性关系时,他剥去你的糖衣,含吮起来。当时可能感觉不错,可遗憾的是,他与你完事后,你们留给下一位伴侣的就是衣冠不整,口水臭味的残渣。”("Your body is a wrapped lollipop. When you have sex with a man, he unwraps your lollipop and sucks on it. It may feel great at the time, but unfortunately, when he's done with you, all you have left for your next partner is a poorly wrapped, saliva-fouled sucker. ")

(随着岁数和经历的增长,遇到新问题更加冷静处理)

够耸人听闻的。不过女权主义者不吃这一套。瓦伦蒂提出的口号是:“我的处女膜我做主!(Our Hymens, Ourselves )

就像biologist, 首先识别问题,找出先验知识,然后采取合适的行动。**

”她说:“我从未闹明白处女贞操有什么大不了,真的。我的贞操在中学时代就被一名男朋友没怎么费劲就夺去了。我们后来还约会了好几年呢。我还以为会有什么异样的感觉呢,没有。我总觉得这种把处女贞操当成如花似玉一回事很愚蠢。所以你可以想象,当我发现自己原来是被用过即弃的垃圾(或棒棒糖)时有多愕然。”(I have never really understood what the big deal was about virginity. Really. Mine was lost without a great deal of fanfare to a high school boyfriend whom I dated for several years afterward. I expected to feel different—I didn't. The whole precious-flower-virginity thing always seemed silly to me. So imagine my surprise when I found out that I was just a used-up piece of trash (or candy) without it.)

When I was faced with types of situations I had encountered before, I drew on the principles I had learned for dealing with them. 

我比较纳闷的是,女权主义者总体上是鄙夷男人的。可是在处理自己的情欲时,她们对男人的态度显然又是另一番风景。诚然,她们与男人上床,再也不是为了讨好男人,更不是为了繁衍后代,而纯粹是为了自己的愉悦。用瓦伦蒂露骨的话,就是:一边做女权主义者,一边啪啪啪!(Fucking while feminist !)

(之前遇到的问题,使用已经学到的原则)

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